It’s been a while since I last wrote on here. Life has been busy and it has been a very busy time at the practice too. I always see a pattern at this time of year, when the nights darken, sometimes our moods do too. Clients tell me how their mood may dip and new referrals come through to me.
I think the seasons changing does affect us, but we can’t resist it, change happens. Life really is like a rollercoaster, the highs, the lows and sometimes they come in quick succession.
Often I discuss the pursuit of happiness with clients. They tell me how they have often been chasing an ideal of life that resembles “happy” and then everything changes, sometimes in a heartbeat.
I look at happiness more as collections of moments and allowing yourself to be present through it all. We simply can’t numb out the difficult, without also then numbing out the good. In other words if we try to avoid the pain of our sadness by avoidance, usually this means we fill the void with something else, never really being present.
As a child we like to scare ourselves, go on rollercoasters and we are truly present. Think of a child having a tantrum, they fully engage in their experience without judgement. As we age, we lose our ability to “be with” things, forever distracted by social media, commitments or avoidance.
So, my message in this blog today is to “hold on” stay with it and feel what you feel, every feeling passes, the good and the difficult. Allowing yourself to feel, shows you that you can survive, you can move past a feeling and you can build resilience from this experiential rollercoaster called life.